Mostly Sex Stuff (Thank you Amy Schumer)

amy-schumer-mostly-sex-stuff-large It’s almost chimeric what a woman talking about sex like it was a regular thing (which shouldn’t be surprising in the first place) can do to most men. Correction–can do to most men and some women. Sure, it’s a matter of prerogative. It’s your choice to openly discuss your personal life, and while no one is being too judge-eeh about the ‘sanctity’ of keeping it private, what’s the problem with sticking to the ‘sanctity’ of keeping it public? Before this reads like a rant, I need a background score for where I am heading. The score was a bunch of us (guys and girls) chilling at a friends place, and the ground was surfing through mindful and mindless stuff on the tube/TV. When I had enough of stand-up male comics, I decided to orient the boys towards the equivalent joy they should experience watching a female stand-up comic. I hadn’t heard of Amy before my boyfriend insisted I should watch one of her shows. Once I saw her, I was hooked.
Reactions varied from quizzical, amused, dismissive, to patiently curious. The switch was made and Amy Schumer came alive. Schumer is an anomaly for men who are conditioned to seeing a woman safely ensconced in the stereotypes that have primitively defined women. She openly talks of her fabulous and not-so-fabulous experiences in the dating world, about incredible inefficiency shown by the men she has slept with, of hope, and sex, and does it all poker-faced, unaffected by the ‘Oh-my-god’s’, What did she just say?’ reactions. After a round of Amy, discussions centered on the obsession with sex which women were ‘suddenly‘ pre-occupied with. As an active participant and a relentless supporter of ‘equal rights in bed’ it took some time for the boys to graduate to understanding that talking of sex, was not the equivalent of being obsessed with it.  I am unapologetic in opening my can of sexual questions with friends, colleagues, and family. I find it deeply regressive to not address it as normally as everything else in life. You know it exists, so why let it sit in cold storage? The awkward reaction that Amy got out of the group made me feel dirty, and regretful, but only for a second. The attachment of shame with sex is commonplace when you are a woman…even today! The patriarchs have been winning so far. They have so spectacularly and anally defined the place a woman should hold in society that centuries will continue to stand witness to the slow, very slow  shift. The Vagina Monologues (and the likes) and all the passionate pursuit of sexual liberation all makes sense. No wonder you don’t have a man crying hoarse in  ‘The Penis Monologues’. I can’t thank Amy enough. She exists and doesn’t flinch while delivering her thoughts to her paid audience. If only every man could pay to comprehend what ‘Mostly Sex Stuff’ was about, monologues may become a thing of the past. Here’s hoping. Until then, I won’t resign to fate and continue to follow the precedent set by Amy.

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